Expensive Dave,
My husband and I each work exterior the house, and he has provide you with an thought for our enjoyable cash. He needs us to arrange an account the place we each put 5% of our earnings for discretionary spending. The problem in my thoughts is that he would have much more to spend, as a result of he makes way more cash than I do. He says he feels he ought to be capable of spend extra since he makes extra. I’m not a grasping particular person, and I don’t spend cash on loads of frivolous issues, however I do suppose issues can be even. I really feel we must always every put in the identical greenback quantity—one which’s truthful to each of us—if we’re going to do that. What do you suppose?
Val
Expensive Val,
This isn’t an excellent plan. I’m certain your husband means properly, and that he’s actually an excellent man total, but it surely sounds to me like he in all probability hasn’t thought this entire factor via. As they stand now, the small print of his thought play out as fairly immature and egocentric. And one thing tells me you wouldn’t marry a person like that.
Give it some thought this fashion. There are many households on the market the place just one particular person works exterior the house and generates an precise earnings. Would it not be truthful to say that whoever brings residence the paycheck is the one one who can have enjoyable spending on occasion? After all, not! Generally, spouses who don’t work exterior the house tackle tons of duty and achieve a number of issues each single day—particularly if the couple has youngsters. In the event you put a financial quantity on all that, it’d wind up being a fairly good earnings dollars-wise.
Bear in mind again if you two received married? If it have been something near a conventional ceremony, I’ll guess the preacher pronounced you two “as one.” As in each factor and each method. Meaning you could have one earnings, a mixed earnings, and it’s our earnings. In the event you personal a house, it’s our residence. It’s no more his residence simply because he makes more cash than you. Our youngsters, our marriage our every part. Get the image?
Marriage is just not a me proposition. It ought to all the time be a we factor. Your husband must be reminded of that.
